Thursday, February 03, 2011

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
This is called as "Quarter-life Crisis."
PS: I got this post as one of the forward mail from my friend, Bhavna and just could relate myself to it completely... 


  1. Priyanka,

    Cheer up !!!!! I have been there passed it and now mid life crisis is around the corner.

    People like you rule the world. Believe it or not, this is the best time in your life unless of course a great tragedy happens and even though you work hard.

    Enjoyed reading your post..reminded me when I was young

  2. huh! so could i (the relate thing you mentioned).
    well we all have been there, seen lows and jumped back up. all of us have that surviver stink in us. thats how we are!

    a very nice post!

  3. There is a saying that don't wait for the day when your suffering ends, because it is going to be the day that you are dead.

    Everybody goes through it, some succumb to it, while others fight and sail through. Wish you luck!

    Blasphemous Aesthete

  4. We all have our phases gal... Hoe you come out of it soon...

  5. I'm just seventeen and I already have a feeling that I don't wanna grow up :D
    The picture you have posted is so cute!
    The way Mr. Bean pops into your blog is funny :D
    I love your blog!

  6. We all have done some really stupid things, which when we think about them now makes us wonder, why we ever did those silly things in our life. We had parents who brought us up with good values, yet we let our impulse rule us.
    But sooner or later all young people become more matured and understand the value of life, and change to more better and responsible people.
    Once you have crossed this particular phase of your life, then it is quite easy to lead the rest of your life without much complication.
    However this phase is very important, so always think ten times before you plunge into anything, and never give in to your impulses, whether it is your education or anything else. This is the time the future is your hands, you can either make it or break it.
    Wishing you all the very best in life.
    Be happy and always think positive.

  7. I am yet to be 20 (will be in the next 2-3 months) but i too could relate to the post. except for the fact that i m still in college and hopes still fly high. wen i first started reading, it kinda sounded scary but by the end i realized its LIFE..and thats how it meant to be. so y fret? there is only one life...its good to taste everything..sweet or sour :))


  8. enjoy the best time of life

  9. this is a lovely post ... i also got that kinda feelings before n nw also, as a matter of fact you keeps learning till the end ..

    and priyanka (luvly name) iam not commenting just because you commented on my post ... its jus like i don get that much time nwadays ... but will be checking on u .. looking forward

  10. From terrible twos to terrible has sure become stressful. The only consolation is that most are going through it.

  11. dont beleive in this .. every year seems to have a problem as above Terrible TWOS.. then 20's then the 30's and so on...

    Jsut have fun, its how you live and behave that makes the difference nothing to do otherwise ..


  12. I identify with it too. But I don't really believe in quarter lifer and mid life crises. Crises occur whenever they want to and whatever age you are....

  13. Something nice that a friend of ours once said: "I laugh all the time not because I think life is so funny but because that's the only way to go through it..."

  14. @A: This is the time v learn a lot!! V do come out from that fantacy world and get serious about life! It truly is a enjoying as well as scary experience!

    @SEPO: yes indeed v r!! V have that vigor, the caliber to stand apart!

    @Blasphemous Aesthete: I know I m a fighter!! Thx!

    @Tanishka: Surely I hope sooner or little later... All my dream will come true!

    @Lonely dreamer: I am gald a 17 yr old loved my blog!! Sweety keep coming in!!

    @Rama: thx so so much!! I alway wait for ur comments... they r mom like!! I will tc bout whatever u say!!

    @sarah: yes gal... u r so rite.. Bland taste is not at all enjoyable... its the sweet and sour taste that brings the zing!

    @sm: yes I will thx!

    @Febrehemo: sure dear!! thx for all the appreciation! whenever u get time keep peeping in!

    @Alka: yes like all other v r throu it!!

    @Bikram: I can get ur feeling.. but it just happens v can related to such posts and feel v r also sailing in it!!

    @emily: totally agree!! nice to get ur comment on my blog!! keep visitn!

    @Indian Bazaars: Its difficult.. but will giv a try!

  15. Totally relate to the stuffs..babe!It's so true n close to reality:)